The words we use on a consistent basis can have a dramatic effect on the quality of our lives. Our words, our syntax and the questions we lead with are often habitual. We all have our go-to emotions and reactions and say things like – that’s just how I am.
Except it’s not.
That’s just how you have conditioned yourself to be. While you have likely been influenced heavily by those around you, you are the author. You created your emotional home and the words you habitually use will take you there.
One of my clients, when describing how she felt at work told me “it’s as if I have a target on my back”.
How would that thought make you feel? Anxious? Stressed? Nervous?
How do you act when you feel anxious or stressed? What do you do? How would it effect the work you did? We all are different, but you might not be as thorough, or it might make you defensive or reactive.
What are the words and expressions you use to describe tenuous times at work, at home or in your relationships?
It’s like when my kids would tell me they hated something. Wait – hang on. That they haaaaaated something. I would always say – hate is a big word. Is that really how you feel? I’m sure it was super annoying to them, but I think it’s always good to be aware of the power of your words.
So, what are the loaded words or expressions you use on the regular? Try to take note of them and ask yourself – how does it make me feel? Then try to see what the action or inaction that comes as a result of the feeling.
It can be powerful when you discover the connection between our thoughts (which we can control), our feelings, and the actions that come as a result.
This concept It is the framework to a tool I use that has literally changed my life.
Hey so in case you were not aware, I am a Life Coach whose specialty is working with Midlife Women in Their Prime. I love being an advocate for women in this age group! Their issues are unique when they hit what I call ‘Phase 3’ (with Phase 1 being pre kids and Phase 2 being motherhood). But I think it is a powerful time and I love helping women reignite their purpose.
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Make it a great one.
xopam