A boundary is an act of self-care, self-respect and self-love.
It is something we decide to do for our own benefit. It is not about trying to control the other humans. It’s about getting clarity on what we believe needs to happen and making a decision on how to take care of it.
Far too often we allow things to perpetuate in our lives because we don’t want to offend. Or we don’t want to seem selfish. Or we want people to like us.
The pivotal moment is a realization that someone needs to stand up for us. And that we are the person for the job.
It begins with taking responsibility.
It is a declaration that we have allowed something to happen in the past that we do not want in our future.
It is not about blame. It is about creating the power to change it.
There is a simple formula I use when speaking with the person I am setting the boundary with.
When you do _________, I am going to do _________.