Decisions are not always easy to make. We spin. We go back and forth. We weigh things out and ask for help yet still we feel unsure and conflicted.
Yet our minds crave resolution. And when that thought loop is open and our issues are unresolved, we become preoccupied and fixated.
I often won’t sleep well if I have open thought loops. And I’m pretty sure I’m not the only one who wakes up in the middle of the night spinning on something that seems unsolvable. (and our half-asleep brains are always so reasonable)
One of the things that keeps us from being decisive is the idea that we are faced with one decision that is right and one that is wrong. We get focused on making the right decision, when in fact, there is no right or wrong decision, there is just a decision.
Your brain wants to keep you from acting due to the fear of failure. But failure (if you choose to use that word) is just information.
Make the decision, like your reasons, and be done with it. And if you want some real help, write about it! Journaling is so helpful not only in the present moment, but also to serve as a reminder of what you believe is important.
Close the loop and get on with the next task. Don’t make it more complicated than it needs to be. Allow it to be simple.
And hey – nothing is ever written in stone. If something doesn’t work out, you can make another decision.
Give yourself the power to take charge.
My father used to always say – Lead, follow or get the heck out of the way. Big G always had good advice.
Hey so in case you were not aware, I am a Life Coach whose specialty is working with Midlife Women in Their Prime. I love being an advocate for women in this age group! Their issues are unique when they hit what I call ‘Phase 3’ (with Phase 1 being pre kids and Phase 2 being motherhood). But I think it is a powerful time and I love helping women reignite their purpose and inspiration.
I created a free PDF called SIX WAYS MIDLIFE WOMEN GET STUCK. If you think you or anyone you love might like to read it, I have added it below.
I am also starting a weekly newsletter so anyone who downloads the doc will eventually get to that list as well.
Make it a great one.