Are you doing it right?
It is a question that runs in the background of our thinking almost constantly. I am not exactly sure how it got injected it into my processing systems, but I do know It is there on auto-play, 24-7.
When I got married, I wanted to speak at the reception. One of the first jokes I tried to crack was one about how ‘they told me that brides were not supposed to speak at the wedding reception. And that I wanted to know who ‘they’ were because I had a few questions.’
But think about it.
Of course, we want to do it right, whether we are talking about the things we do so we can feel like a good parent, or a good partner, a good boss or a good human even. But who sets the rules? And can I please get a copy of the rulebook?
Many look to spiritual texts as their foundation, but there are a lot of unanswered questions that inevitably come up.
We ask around and get intel from the other humans but at the end of the day, we all have our nuances as a result of our DNA coupled with how we were raised, so another person’s path to success may not work for you.
So how do you do it?
I believe that figuring out how you are wired is a good first step. Oh and PS – this is not something you can do over the weekend. It means getting clear on not only the beliefs you have but also why you have them. We all have adopted so many unconscious thought patterns, many of which are not serving us.
But you cannot change that which you cannot see.
I believe we all came to this world programmed with a divine intelligence that can guide us. We just need to be able to develop the capacity to listen and hear.
Knowing if you are doing it right depends on who it is you are becoming. Other people can have their opinions. Just know that what other people think is a reflection of them not of you.
The one you get to answer to is the one that looks back at you in the mirror.
It’s your life. Make it a great one.