Is one of your life goals to be happy? It might just roll off your tongue and it might even sound really nice….but is it realistic?
Don’t get me wrong. I like being happy. But I think the idea that we should be happy all the time sets us up to feel bad. Because happy all the time isn’t realistic. Well, unless you are heavily medicated.
How would you know happy if you hadn’t felt like sh*t? How would you know joy if you hadn’t felt depressed? How would you know peace if you hadn’t felt anxiety?
What if we were only really supposed to feel happy half of the time? What if a 50/50 mix of positive and negative emotions was the human experience that we are all supposed to have?
What if the same was true for our kids? (gulp)
Perhaps the next time you are in the weeds, instead of thinking there is something wrong or that you had to do something to change it, you could take a pause and just sit with the reality of your experience. I sometimes think of putting negative emotions in one of my big (ugly) handbags so I can carry them around with me awhile. (maybe that is why I always forget my handbag)
And I always get a better result by allowing as opposed to resisting.
I am a 50/50 girl. What about you?